Listen, it really isn't that hard to plan a get together after matching on a dating app. I'm fairly certain we've established that at this point. Go out for drinks, meet up for food, grab a coffee, or whatever else is fairly simple. Yes, there's a global pandemic but everyone gets to decide their level of comfort with things. Gem shared this interesting profile on Twitter to demonstrate just how dense some guys can be. I mean, it's not hard to be considerate while planning for a get together is it? Well, maybe it is.
For the sake of this post we'll call this guy Oliver. So, Oliver suggests going for drinks which is standard protocol at this point. But what's the point of going for drinks if you're just going to go walking? You need to have something in mind Oliver because Gem needs to let a friend or loved one know where exactly she's going before she just heads out without as if she doesn't have a care in the world. I always have a plan and established time line of where I'll be and how long I'm expected to be there when meeting up with someone from a dating app. I have several friends that I text and let know where I am going, how long, and who with. As needed I'll text them with an update of "still alive" or "going here" before finally sending the "made it home safe" text. Maybe everyone doesn't do this but I do because you honestly never know and I'd rather be safe then sorry.
Now going for a walk doesn't sound that bad until Gem points out that it's 10:30pm at night. What's up with that? Who asks someone to go on such a late night walk when they've never met before? If that doesn't sound both suspicious and dangerous I don't know what does. Oliver immediately says that he has a verified account so he'd be a dumb criminal to try and do something during their late night walk. Well Oliver, I don't know how to go about telling you this but there are many dumb criminals. They're literally everywhere and being verified means absolutely NOTHING!
Oliver was more concerned about making out with Gem then about making her feel safe. Definitely something that shows how much he cares.
Honestly it's not that hard to be considerate but Gem hits the nail on the head by saying "oh to be a man" because it's so true. Men don't really have to think about their safety when meeting up with a stranger on a dating app. Granted, I'm sure some do and they definitely should depending on their comfort level but at the same time they likely only think of the worst case scenario of not getting a goodbye kiss. Women on the other hand have to worried if they're going to be raped or killed. Quite a big difference.
Either way Oliver really just shows how dense some guys can be. What do you all think? Would you have responded the same way as Gem or would you have been fine and comfortable with going on a late night walk just to help Oliver get his desired make out session? Let me know in the comments down below. (:
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