Saturday, January 21, 2017

Tinder - A Little Cocky Tho?

Most guys are not at all unique or creative when it comes to telling a girl that they are pretty. It's ok, I know it would be much more confusing to have a guy try and give an analogy of what he can compare my beauty to so it's best if he doesn't. It saves us both time and trouble. I can only imagine how many guys google a line about beauty and just cut and paste it into the chat box. If the only thing the guy does have to tell me is that I'm attractive I'm not quite sure what to make of it, which you'll see in the following chat. Let's get to it.



Ok to start off with calling me a cutie is trying to downplay saying beautiful or pretty all for the sake of sounding younger. The guys who want to seem mature always say beautiful and the guys who are flirty say pretty. Such has been my experience. I messaged Pete saying it was true thinking that was the nice way to put it rather than saying "Yeah, I hear that a lot" or something along those lines. It took him a while to respond back to that, which I imagine is because he wasn't used to reading such a response.

The best he could come up with was changing his spelling to that of chat speak, which was quite disappointing, only to say that I was a little cocky. Honestly it's always nice when someone messages me using proper spelling and grammar. It makes me think that there are others who still remember how to spell but Pete decided to ruin that because I told him I all ready knew that I looked good. So the best thing he could say that I was a little cocky. Sorry for being confident in my looks Pete. I thought my response was appropriate in calling him out for expecting something more like some sort of conversation would happen because he called me a cutie.

Do conversations actually happen because someone calls another person attractive? I mean an actual conversation that the person receiving the compliment would start just to make things clear. If someone is going to give a compliment they should be ready to say something more, in my opinion. The person receiving the compliment merely would say thank and possibly return a compliment at best. Then that would be the end of things unless the person giving the compliment has something else to say. It's like a segue in the sense of, "Hey I like your boots." "Thank you." "Can I ask where you got them?" and thus a conversation is born but again, the person giving the compliment is the one leading the conversation.

So since I have responded asking if I was supposed to swoon Pete has not messaged me back at all, which I'm not losing any sleep over. It's not my fault he wasn't ready to have someone who didn't turn into a puddle of emotions over a compliment. I was ready for an actual conversation but it just never came. What do you all think? Have you had guys try to give a compliment and then leave the rest of the conversation up to you? Or was I being a bit too extra? Let me know what you think in the comments below. (:

27 comments :

  1. Lads nowadays think just because they compliment you that you should instantly fall for them. Cxxxxx

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  2. I think I'd rather have a proper conversation before they compliment me so it's based on more than just what I look like!
    Amy xx
    www.callmeamy.co.uk

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  3. Lol, your response was perfect. Men seem to think we are all insecure little girls and a compliment will make us daydream of marrying them! Xxxxxx

    Lucylovesbeautyxo.com

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  4. This made me laugh!
    I always say some men think they are gods gifts and we should just melt at their feet. I loved your response.

    Tania || www.taniaalexandraribeiro.com
    xx

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  5. Damn girl your reply was on fire! 🔥🔥 Massive respect for you for calling him out - what a douchebag! I'm sure you can live without compliments from guys like that! Ugh! They make my skin crawl!

    Abbey 🌈 www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

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  6. This is hilarious! I love your dating app stories! Well done you. You go girl!

    Steph xx

    Steph's World | Lifestyle Blog | www.stephsworld.com

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  7. Lol! I do agree though. If someone gives a compliment, they should follow it with something. How would a convo ever get started if we just sit and throw compliments and thank you's back and forth? 🤓

    Shawn Bethea
    Blogger | IBD Advocate
    Web: MoreSpoons.com
    Twitter | Instagram: @ShawnBethea_

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  8. Damn, but you did a good job in calling him out! Some guys think they're God's gift to women when they're actually NOT!

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  9. I hate when people don't use proper grammar. We are all adults here, why not speak like one. It's different if you use acronyms, but I hate when they use "u" instead of spelling out the entire three letter word. I loved the way you responded to him. Girls are allowed to know they look good without a guy telling them. You were too cute lmfaoo! Good luck with your journey xxx
    www.ivefoundwaldo.com

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  10. I don't think I could do the dating scene any longer. I don't know how some people think this is good way to get a conversation flowing

    Charlotte x
    www.cupsofcharlotte.co.uk

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  11. Haha this is so funny! Lads just think that by saying something marginally nice they have you under their belt, I compliment so many people a day and don't even think anything of it. Wonderful post keep up the good work :)

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  12. Oh wow, so you're not meant to be confident? *eye roll* like why even.... so eat you know? That doesn't make you corky! Lads need to calm themselves these days... the way they act, NO THANKS!

    Jordanne || Thelifeofaglasgowgirl.co.uk

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  13. He clearly doesn't get challenged a lot! Good for you! Really enjoying your posts - so entertaining!

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  14. So, I only saw the photo that went along with this post earlier and got a chuckle. Now that I've read the post, it's an all out laugh! I don't think you were too extra at all. Just from what I've read, it sounds like you were being yourself. If he cannot handle that now, he doesn't deserve a date with you.

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  15. I love your response! There is nothing wrong with being confident and knowing that you're attractive - some people just aren't used to it I suppose!

    Leanne xx
    www.latteleanne.com

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  16. Ahaha your response was amazing!!! Well done, dear!!! :) xx

    aishettina.blogspot.it

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  17. Your reaction to that guy was spot on! Couldn't have said it any better myself.

    xoxo
    Freya
    thatgirlyt.wordpress.com

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  18. Pfft, if Pete can't handle the heat, he'd better stay out of the kitchen! Good for you for not swooning over lame lazy attempts to pick you up. When will dudes learn that people are after substance?!?

    And I 100% agree on chatspeak. Good grammar is a MUST!

    xoxo
    Emily
    emilyhallock.blogspot.com

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  19. YESSSS GIRL! You know you're cute. Men are often intimidated by women who already know their worth and don't need a man to give them value.

    I am obsessed with your Tinder posts. Keep them coming!

    Alice x | www.invocati.co.uk

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  20. Ayye! Tell it like it is, girl! I've seen a few girls have conversations like this. The guys seem to think beauty or aesthetic appeal is something bestow upon us, not something we're empowered enough to realize for ourselves. By recognizing our own attractiveness, they seem to think we're taking some supposed power they think they have. It's complete nonsense. You rock for owning it! xoxo

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  21. I swear guys always feel super defensive whenever a girl admits that she believes in her own beauty, it's bizarre! It's as if - like you said - they don't expect girls to hear that they've been told they're pretty and that they've accepted themselves... so silly!

    Lizzie Bee // Hello Lizzie Bee

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  22. Oh gosh 😂 Please just do a blog series on tinder conversations!

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  23. Haha, so we are not supposed to agree and thank them or it's cocky!? How ridiculous!

    www.lovefrommaira.co.uk

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  24. Love your reply haha! Lads these days just think all girls are craving for compliments and will fall for them in a few seconds if they give you a compliment too lol. I'd rather talk or message someone who wants a proper conversation and get to know each other.

    www.astoldbykirsty.blogspot.co.uk

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  25. Best reply. You're right he wasn't ready, and really, that shouldn't even be a line opener.

    The Crimson Cardigan

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  26. Urgh how annoying!!!! Great response xox

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  27. I'm so anti-men right now, it's unreal. You can't say anything to them without them getting offended! I know I'm cute because I'm super tiny and look like a child but sometimes if a stranger calls me it, I find it extremely condescending. What happened to the art of conversation and romance or am I just a bit too traditional?!

    Sian x
    http://theenglisheverygirl.blogspot.co.uk/

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